Tamar Care Services Southwest Ltd 

Your family-run, independent, quality domiciliary care & support service 
covering Plymouth & south-east Cornwall



Professional boundaries

Posted on 3 October, 2015 at 9:20

Myself and the team have recently had the great honour to get to know a wonderful family whilst we supported their father/husband/friend at the end of his life. We only knew this gentleman for a few short weeks, who's wish was to return home from hospital and to be amongst those that knew and loved him. Life had been quite cruel to him and his family over the last few months - he retired to our beautiful Cornwall in order to spend time with his wife, children and grandchildren having worked hard at a job he loved for many years. Almost immediately following this move, he was taken poorly and their time together was cut cruely short by his illness.

In the short time that we got to know this amazing family - they showed such strength as a family unit and all worked together to ensure that their father/husband had the best care possible. They filled the home with laughter, children playing and made sure that he was aware of their prescence. Sadly they lost their husband, father and friend just this last week and we felt the loss too. We stood with them to say a final 'goodbye' and we shed tears with them too.

I am not ashamed to say that we have also felt the loss deeply - those of the team that spent alot of time with this gentleman and his family also feel the grief and loss. I can say that they have not left my thoughts for very long , that I have found myself in tears on quite a few occasions and that I was very attached to this man that we cared for. Although I fully understand the concept of 'professional boundaries' and 'keeping a professional distance' - I dont feel that being a detached robot would make me a better carer.

Now and then you meet people that really do leave footprints in the heart - Rest in Peace Now 'B'.

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Reply Caren
9:32 on 2 November, 2015 
Hi Kerri & Team
Thank you for your kind words.
I don't know what we would have done without your support for our dad & Mum.
You are all a great team.
Avery big thank you all again